How did you like your lunch? – asks kindly the waiter. I reply with nodding and sending a half-smile while my partner adds with his mouth full: “It was not so bad, although the fried chicken was pretty messed up!” I resolved with downcast eyes to give big tip to the waiter after the behavior of my partner. But why exactly do we give gratuity in the restaurant?

Obviously, the answer for the above question is that we are ready to give tips when we are content and satisfied with the services. But it’s more complicate as the above example suggested.

We usually give a tip as a compensation for the behavior of our partner or a picky family member or a moaning child. Gratuity also intends to compensate an awkward and embarrassing situation. However, psychological research showed that there are many other reasons for giving a tip such as if it is a habit, or it is expected to do so. Another reason is that we want to show how generous we are. Other studies highlighted that with bigger or smaller tip we’d like to influence the quality of services we think we deserve. Others believe that guests feel embarrassed that they are having fun while the waiters and waitresses are working, so they give bigger gratuity to them.

All in all, the phenomenon of tipping has several personal reasons but it really does matter how the waiter behaves. We prefer giving extra money to a kind, polite and smiling waiter as much as for those serves who pay attention to us but can also be undetected. These types of behavior and habit are being consciously rewarded. Furthermore, there are some psychological tricks that invisibly motivate us towards giving tips – summarized the Psychology Today Journal and a Cornell University Professor.

Standard rules for tip-hunting

As I already mentioned above we prefer rewarding kind, friendly and direct people who pay attention to us. It is not accidental that smiling is most frequently associated with the tip but we also wish to give extra money to those serves who repeat our orders. Repeating is the reflection of our behavior and it suggests empathy. Even during successful dates or meetings we constantly repeat each other’s gestures. According to research, the 3 gestures for receiving the highest gratuity are: smiling, repeating the order and presenting ourselves. Moreover, we reward funny waiters as well: waiters who tell a joke or give us small candies or cookies with the bill. Anyway, we prefer accepting these things from women – like so much else, too.

Tricks definitely for women!

Regardless of the quality of service attractive women receive higher tips than their less attractive peers. Moreover, bigger breast, blond hair and slim waitresses can collect higher gratuity as well. Interestingly, an attractive waitress gets more money not only from male but from female guests, too. The only exception is the vivid make-up – although women guests do not like it, men guests tend to love it, especially when the waitress used red lipstick!

The survey also noted that more money is also given for those waitresses who politely and silently touch the guests’ hand or shoulder. However, the touch needs to be slight and friendly, far from suggesting flirt. In this type of situation women also give higher tips unless the server touches one of the dating couple.

The most surprising result of the survey is that wearing hair grips, barrettes, flowers or bobby pins also enhance the tip! Why? It’s a mystery. In any case, you might worth trying! 😉

based on article of
by Valentina Leanyfalvi



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