True stories: Dating as an expat in Hungary II

Cross-cultural relationships can be extremely fun but also challenging. Those looking to find love away from home are certainly bound for adventure. Here are four stories from our readers who tried dating as an expat in Hungary. While you are here, do not forget to check out our previous article that discusses the ups and downs of the Hungarian dating scene. 

Christopher (40) – France

“I’m no longer based in Budapest but I lived there for four years in the past. As a French teacher, I had many opportunities to meet new people – my students often invited me to events and parties. I also tried dating online (Facebook, Tinder) and at my workplace. Hungary is a great place to be single and just enjoy life. At that time, I wasn’t looking for something serious as I didn’t know how long my work contract would last. On one hand, Hungarian women were less expressive than French ones and I also met some who had quite a depressing worldview. On the other hand, they were less materialistic than French women in the south where I come from.

For a straight man, Budapest is a paradise when it comes to dating. Women are extremely beautiful and dress quite provocatively and revealing, especially in summer. Of course, I didn’t restrict my choices to locals. The advantage of living in Budapest was its international vibe and vibrant social life, so I had the chance to meet many people from different countries. Not being a Hungarian also came to my advantage. Whenever an issue arose (in restaurants or with the electricity company), my exes took care of it as I didn’t speak the local language. I didn’t even have to lift a finger. I also remember the unlimited amount of pálinka and tasty homemade dishes when I was invited to my ex-girlfriends’ families. Ah, good old times.. I think cross-culture dating really opens up your mind and makes you more accepting of people with different opinions and backgrounds.”

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Naissa (29) – Madagascar

“I came to Hungary 7 years ago and I immediately fell in love with the place so I decided to stay. I prefer to meet offline but it is hard nowadays. Hungarian men tend to be shy at first, they do not easily approach women, especially women of colour who are so different from their own kinds of girls they are used to. So far, I’ve tried Bumble, Happn, Punch.. but most guys want purely sex instead of love. Tinder is completely spoilt, in my experience.

I haven’t really had a long-term relationship so far but I have been introduced to my exes’ parents several times, often pretty early on. When it comes to my ex-partners’ families, some were accepting some were less so. Some saw me as something exotic, while others treated me as if I were dumb due to my limited Hungarian. Others were absolutely open and friendly, interested in practicing their English with me.

I’ve had a fair share of awful dating experiences that basically put me off from meeting new people for a while. For example, one guy invited me for a date even though he was already seeing someone else. He admitted that after our second date when he refused to drop me off at the train station unless I agreed to spend the night at his place. He was basically in a dilemma of whether he should commit to that other girl or keep his options open. It turned out I was fun to be with, but eventually, he wanted to stay with a more “stable” person whatever that was supposed to mean. Nevertheless, he kept texting me for a couple of weeks. I’ve also had dates when the other person just simply did not show up even though we arranged to meet up well beforehand. Others tried to kiss me and get physical already on the second date but it takes time for me to develop feelings. Hungarian men tend to be rather impatient. I’m currently taking a break from dating as I find it overwhelming.”